I was sexually abused by my older cousin for a prolonged period of time. The details are very hazy but I was about 9 to 11 and he was about 22. Remembering this experience and coming to terms with what was really happening took years and I had no professional help. I also realized I engaged in similar behaviors with my younger sister probably at the same time. The whole experience is a mess in my mind I don’t know what exactly happened and when but I know it’s true. I don’t know if my sister remembers but I once opened up to her very briefly about my cousin and asked her if he did anything to her as well and she told me she didn’t remember anything of that sort. Recently the whole thing keeps coming back to me and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if talking to her openly about it would make things better or worse. I’m having a very hard time with what I’m feeling because I know I was a child and I had no idea what was really going on but I know I have to take responsibility for what happened anyway. I don’t have access to professional help and I have no idea how to properly navigate this. I love my sister and I feel ashamed that I harmed her in any way and I want to fix this. I’m afraid talking about this with her will ruin our relationship forever but at the same time I don’t know how we can go on without discussing it and without me apologizing to her. Please help me