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Message of Healing
Healing means not letting the triggers control me anymore.
Hi. I was 4. He was 17. We will call him B. I was placed with a new foster family. They lived on a big farm & had lots of animals. They had a new litter of kitties. My first day there, B took me to see the animals and pick out a kitten that could be my buddy. I picked a solid black kitten and he was the smallest. The next morning he took me with him to the barn to do chores. He took me to the loft and said he would bury my kitten if I didn't do everything he said. He pulled down the front of my Dora pajamas and began licking me. I was so confused and did not know what was happening. My body was confused. I was scared but my body wasn't responding in a fearful way. After he finished, he pulled my panties back up and told me I'm his favorite snack. I wanted to run and tell a grown up but I was scared for my kitten. That night I woke up feeling him doing it to me again. Next day, same thing. . . Every day I was there this happened. It escalated but it's too triggering to share right now. I should have been kept safe.
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Grounding activity
Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:
5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)
4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)
3 – things you can hear
2 – things you can smell
1 – thing you like about yourself.
Take a deep breath to end.
From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.
Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).
Take a deep breath to end.
Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:
1. Where am I?
2. What day of the week is today?
3. What is today’s date?
4. What is the current month?
5. What is the current year?
6. How old am I?
7. What season is it?
Take a deep breath to end.
Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.
Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.
Take a deep breath to end.
Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.
Take a deep breath to end.