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# 私がとても幼かった頃（5～7歳くらい）、私より7歳ほど年上の未成年だったベビーシッターと不適切な接触がありました。私は彼女に膣マッサージをお願いし、下着をつけたまま交代でマッサージをしました。私が始めたのですが、年齢を考えるとこの経験をどう分類したらいいのかわかりません。私が頼んだのに、私たちは2人とも未成年だったのに、これは虐待とみなされるのでしょうか、それとも別のことなのでしょうか？

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博士号精神保健看護師＆性暴力看護師認定者

トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn/topics/making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

これは確かに複雑で繊細な状況です。それについて理解を求める勇気を持ってくださりありがとうございます。少し視点を述べさせてください...

まず、5～7歳の子供は、たとえ自分が性的行為を始めたとしても、その行為について十分な情報に基づいた同意を与えることができなかったということを理解することが重要です。その年齢の子供には、性的行為の完全な意味を理解するだけの成熟度や理解力がありません。

あなたのベビーシッターは、かなり年上（12～14歳くらい）で、権威ある立場にあるため、彼女自身も未成年であるにもかかわらず、適切な境界線を維持する責任がありました。しかし、彼女の年齢が若く、適切な行動についての理解が不足している可能性があることが、状況を複雑にしています。

このシナリオは、 [子ども同士の性的虐待](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ourwave.org%2Fpost%2Fchild-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-frequently-asked-questions-and-considerations&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en-US&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=b4d87d70-d0d4-4c92-a9df-1ac369508c24&sig=70057f8a74f400b6505c541482fb4f8fbcb1f1464a84ec8c39f3ccf3b9ff0413)(COCSA) に分類される可能性があります。これは、子どもが他の子どもに、発達段階の理解を超えた性的行動をとらせる場合に発生します。ただし、自分の体験を最終的に定義できるのは自分だけであることを強調することが重要です。専門家は状況や情報を提供できますが、何が起こったのかをどのように分類し、理解するかは、非常に個人的な問題です。

それをどう表現するかに関わらず、たとえあなたが始めたことであっても、起こったことに対してあなたが責任を負っているわけではないことを認識することが重要です。あなたのベビーシッターは未成年ではありますが、年齢差を考えればもっとよくわかっているべきでした。また、あなた方二人とも、どこかで見たり経験したりした行動をしていた可能性もあります。

このような経験の影響は大きく異なります。人によっては、後になって混乱したり、罪悪感を覚えたり、苦しんだりするかもしれませんが、大きな影響を受けていないと感じる人もいます。これらの反応はすべて正当なものです。この経験についての感情に苦しんでいる場合は、幼少期の経験や性的問題を専門とするセラピストに相談すると役立つかもしれません。セラピストは、あなたの感情を処理し、全体的な発達の文脈でその出来事を理解するのを助けてくれます。

過去の経験について理解しようとすることは、それらを処理する健全で正常な過程であることを忘れないでください。これらの複雑な感情や記憶を整理しながら、自分自身に忍耐強く優しく接してください。理解と癒しの旅はあなた自身のものであり、これらの経験を理解するのに時間がかかっても大丈夫です。私たちに連絡してくださりありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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接地活動

座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

別のグラウンディング活動を試してみましょう

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