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# 私が9歳か10歳の頃、姉（当時5歳か6歳）と私は、それぞれのキャラクターが「デート」するという空想のゲームをしました。そのゲームでは、軽く唇を合わせるというもので、ある時、私は姉に私の上に寝るように頼みました。しかし、それは間違っていると感じたのですぐにゲームをやめ、私たちは二度とそのゲームをしませんでした。大人になった今、私は強い罪悪感と恥ずかしさを感じており、姉を性的に虐待したのではないかと恐れています。このことをセラピストや虐待を経験した友人たちと話し合ったところ、全員が私が姉を虐待していないと私を安心させてくれました。それでも、私は何かひどく悪いことをしたのではないかという恐怖を拭い去ることができません。私の行動は性的虐待に該当するのでしょうか？

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トピックス:[幼少期の経験を理解する](/ja/learn/topics/making-sense-of-childhood-experiences)

あなたが背負っているこの重い荷物をシェアしてくださって本当にありがとうございます。妹さんとの幼少期の経験について、あなたが心配していること、そして強い罪悪感と恥ずかしさを感じていることはよくわかります。身体や人間関係に対する好奇心は、子どもの発達の正常な一部であることを認識することが重要です。多くの子どもは、「ままごと」や「お医者さんごっこ」などの探索的な遊びに熱中しますが、これには、短いキスや抱きしめ合いなどの遊び心のある身体的な愛情表現が含まれることもあります。この遊びが軽くて相互的なものである場合、通常は無害であると見なされます。

あなたの状況では、その遊びがあなたを不快にさせたようで、その遊びをやめることになったようです。これは、あなたが境界線を知り、「間違っている」と感じたことを続けたくなかったことを示しています。あなたがその行動をやめたという事実は、虐待の意図を持って行動していなかったことの良い兆候です。

虐待を経験したセラピストや友人は、あなたの行動は虐待ではなかったと正しく評価しているでしょう。あなたたちは二人とも幼く、年齢も近く、ちょっとした遊びの実験をしていたのです。重要なのは、それが不適切だと感じ始めたとき、あなたは自発的にそれを止めたということです。

しかし、この安心感があっても、罪悪感や不安感が強く残ることがあることは理解しています。これらの感情は正当なものであり、たとえそれがあなたの行動の現実と一致していなくても、ケアとサポートを受けるに値します。恥ずかしさや自信喪失を健全な方法で乗り越えられるよう、セラピストと一緒にこの感情を処理し続けることをお勧めします。

思い出してください、あなたは子供でした。子供は遊びの中で試行錯誤しながら、身体的および関係的な境界について学ぶことがよくあります。あなたがこの経験について深く考えているという事実は、あなたが強い道徳観と他人を傷つけないという決意を持っていることを示しています。この複雑な感情を乗り越えるには、自分自身に思いやりを持ってください。私たちにこの件を任せてくださったことに改めて感謝します。サポート体制に頼り、自分の直感を信じ、自分は一人ではないことを忘れないでください。

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Salvador](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=uy)[\[Image: Venezuela\]Venezuela](/ja/answer/when-i-was-9-or-10-years-old-my-sister-who-was-5-or-6-at-the-time-and-i-played-an-imaginary-game-where-our-characters-would-date-the-game-involved-a-quick-peck-on-the-lips-and-on-one-occasion-i-asked-her-to-lay-on-top-of-me-however-i-quickly-stopped-the-game-because-it-felt-wrong-and-we-never-played-it-again-now-as-an-adult-i-feel-intense-guilt-and-shame-and-im-afraid-that-i-may-have-sexually-abused-her-i-have-discussed-this-with-my-therapist-and-friends-who-have-experienced-abuse-and-they-all-reassured-me-that-i-did-not-abuse-my-sister-despite-this-i-cant-shake-the-fear-that-i-did-something-terribly-wrong-did-my-actions-constitute-sexual-abuse-159?country=ve)

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何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

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以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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