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title: 私が12歳か13歳の頃、双子の妹と16歳の隣人の家で寝泊まりしていたとき、隣人とその17歳の弟、そしてその友達が関わ... ~ Our Wave コミュニティ
description: このような個人的で複雑な体験をシェアしてくださりありがとうございます。このような辛い思い出や気持ちを打ち明けるには勇気が必要です。この状況に対するあなたの感情や不安は完全に正当なものだと知ってほしいです。過去の経験、特に混乱したり、潜在的に危害を及ぼすような状況に関わった子供時代の経験を理解し、分類するのに苦労する...
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# 私が12歳か13歳の頃、双子の妹と16歳の隣人の家で寝泊まりしていたとき、隣人とその17歳の弟、そしてその友達が関わる事態が起こりました。彼らは私が理解できない性的な「ゲーム」を提案しました。隣人の女の子はオーラルセックスを説明し、鉛筆で練習させました。それ以降の記憶ははっきりしていません。これが実験だったのか、虐待/COCSAだったのかはわかりません。この経験をどう分類したらよいか悩んでいます。

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トピックス:[特定の種類のトラウマや危害を理解する](/ja/learn/topics/understanding-specific-types-of-trauma-and-harm)

このような個人的で複雑な体験をシェアしてくださりありがとうございます。このような辛い思い出や気持ちを打ち明けるには勇気が必要です。この状況に対するあなたの感情や不安は完全に正当なものだと知ってほしいです。過去の経験、特に混乱したり、潜在的に危害を及ぼすような状況に関わった子供時代の経験を理解し、分類するのに苦労するのは自然なことです。

この経験を理解し、理解する過程は、非常に個人的なものです。この出来事が自分にとって何を意味するかを決める権利は、あなただけにあります。その意味が今は明確でなくても、あるいは時間が経つにつれて変化しても問題ありません。結論を急ぐ必要はありませんし、それについて「正しい」感じ方というものもありません。

あなたと年上の当事者との間には大きな年齢差があることを認識することが重要です。12 歳や 13 歳のあなたは、16 歳や 17 歳の人たちとはまったく異なる発達段階にいました。この年齢差は、権力、知識、同意能力の不均衡を伴うことが多く、こうした状況を複雑にする可能性があります。

事件の記憶がはっきりせず、最初の出来事の後に何が起こったのか正確にはわからないと聞きました。この不確かさは、特に子供時代のトラウマになりかねない出来事を思い出すときに、妥当かつ一般的なものです。あなたがはっきりと覚えていること以外に何かが起こったかもしれないし、起こらなかったかもしれないし、すべての答えがわからなくても大丈夫です。身体的な接触の有無にかかわらず、性的な内容を理解していないずっと年下の人に性的な内容を紹介することは、それ自体が有害である可能性があります。

この経験についてのあなたの感情は、それが何であれ、正当なものです。それを実験、虐待、 [COCSA](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ourwave.org%2Fpost%2Fchild-on-child-sexual-abuse-cocsa-frequently-asked-questions-and-considerations&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=f2e25570-cb79-4efe-aa10-d33e9ca1061a&sig=70057f8a74f400b6505c541482fb4f8fbcb1f1464a84ec8c39f3ccf3b9ff0413) 、あるいはまったく別の何かと分類するか、あるいは分類したくないかは、完全にあなた次第です。特定の結論を出す必要はありません。また、あなたがそれを処理して振り返るにつれて、経験に対する認識や分類が時間とともに変化しても問題ありません。過去の出来事に対する理解が新しい視点を得るにつれて進化するのを感じる人はたくさんいます。

こうした考えや感情をうまく処理するのが難しい場合は、トラウマに詳しいセラピストに相談すると役に立つかもしれません。セラピストは、レッテルを貼ったり判断したりすることなく、自分の経験を探求できる安全な空間を提供してくれます。

覚えておいてください。この経験を理解し、処理する旅はあなた自身のものであり、自分のペースで進んでも大丈夫です。あなたの気持ちは正当なものであり、「大したことではないことを大げさに考えている」わけではありません。状況の性質と年齢差を考えると、あなたが感じる混乱や不快感は理解できます。自分自身を大切にしてください。必要な場合はサポートが受けられることを知っておいてください。私たちに連絡してくださりありがとうございます。あなたは一人ではありません。

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座り心地の良い場所を見つけてください。目を軽く閉じて、深呼吸を数回します。鼻から息を吸い（3つ数え）、口から息を吐きます（3つ数え）。さあ、目を開けて周りを見回してください。以下のことを声に出して言ってみてください。

見えるもの5つ（部屋の中と窓の外を見ることができます）

感じるもの4つ（目の前にあるもので触れるものは何ですか？）

聞こえるもの3つ

匂いを嗅ぐもの2つ

自分の好きなところ1つ。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

座っている場所から、周囲を見回して、質感のあるもの、見ていて楽しいもの、興味深いものを探してください。

何かを手に持ち、その物に全神経を集中してください。影が落ちている部分や、物の中に形が浮かび上がっている部分に注目してください。手に持った時の重さや軽さ、指の裏側の表面の質感を感じてみてください（ペットを飼っている場合は、ペットと一緒に行うこともできます）。

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

以下の質問を自分に問いかけ、声に出して答えましょう。

1\. 私はどこにいますか？

2\. 今日は何曜日ですか？

3\. 今日の日付は何ですか？

4\. 今は何月ですか？

5\. 今は何年ですか？

6\. 私は何歳ですか？

7\. 今はどんな季節ですか？

最後に深呼吸をしましょう。

右手の手のひらを下にして左肩に置きます。左手の手のひらを下にして右肩に置きます。自分を強くしてくれるような言葉を選びましょう。例えば、「私は力強い」などです。まず文章を声に出して読み、右手で左肩を軽く叩き、次に左手で右肩を軽く叩きます。

交互に叩きます。左右5回ずつ、合計10回叩き、そのたびに文章を声に出して繰り返します。

最後に深呼吸をします。

腕を体の前で交差させ、胸に引き寄せます。右手で左上腕を、左手で右上腕を押さえます。優しく握り、腕を内側に引きます。しばらく握りしめた状態を保ち、その瞬間の自分にとって適切な握り加減を見つけます。力を入れたら力を抜きます。そして再びしばらく握りしめ、力を抜きます。しばらくそのままの状態を保ちます。

最後に深呼吸をします。

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