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Send it to us 🇬🇧 ##### Survivor story # is it sexual assault? Original story ##### Message of Healing I don’t think I will ever heal. I think about what happened everyday and get scared when older men come near me or even when my own family members touch me I can’t even stand my sisters leg touching mine it triggers me to go back and think to that night I just want to forget it all but I can’t I fear this will affect me for the rest of my life. one day my phone had broke and my uncle went to get it fixed for me I didn’t know that he had gone bought my phone and found that I was speaking to a boy. Later that day my dad told me to get my uncle from his room for dinner (he was living with us). When I had gone up he told me to come in the room so I did he then proceeded to ask me questions about this boy asking if I loved him and more then he said that he could tell I was letting boys touch me because my boobs were getting bigger. After that he said if I wanted to be touched by anyone don’t go to these boys and to go to him. As I was going to leave the room he told me to kiss his cheek and I did it because I was scared he would tell my dad I was speaking to a boy (I live in a strict household) he also has pictures of me on his phone where I am wearing a vest top he said it was inappropriate and would show my dad. To this day I don’t know what to call what happened to me I haven’t found the strength to tell my parents and my uncle still comes to my house weekly after he moved out. Is it sexual assault or am I just overreacting? Random Story [ 0 Comment(s) Comment(s) ](/en/story/is-it-sexual-assault-1156#comments) - Report #### Just Checking... #### Discard Message? You have a comment in progress, are you sure you want to discard it? Cancel Discard ##### Similar community content Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetuer adipiscing elit. Aenean commodo ligula eget dolor. Aenean massa. 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