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Send it to us 🇺🇸 ###### Survivor story # #2003 Original story I was 17 years old when it happened to me. It happened on Valentine’s Day which used to be my favorite holiday. My ex boyfriend and I did acid, the night started out fine we were having a good trip and having consensual sex. I remember at some point I wanted to take my shirt and pants off but stay in my bra and underwear. I don’t remember exactly what happened because I was high but I looked over at him and he had his clothes completely off and he had a boner. This scared me really bad and I put a pillow up between us and started crying. The rest of the night consisted of me trying to sleep and him wanting to have sex with me. At some point I was so tired of him asking for sex that I just let him do whatever he wanted to me while I tried my hardest to fall asleep. I still haven’t fully come to terms with what happened, I don’t want to think of him as that kind of guy but I believe I was coerced. I can’t help but blame myself because I technically didn’t say no and we were both on drugs. I know I didn’t want it to happened and it has affected the way I view sex now. After we broke up we would still hook up for a while and I think that made me feel even less valid in what happened to me since I was continuing to allow it. By far the part that has made me feel most invalid is that he was telling me how he told his mother about the incident (whom I looked up to and almost viewed as my own mother) and she said it was an equal exchange and no one was in the wrong. I still don’t know how to feel about the entire situation. I can’t help but blame myself for everything. I feel ashamed every time I think of having sex so I’ve just stayed celibate. I want someone to listen to me and help me understand what happened but I’m too ashamed to really talk about that night. 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