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Ecuador\]Ecuador](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto Rico](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=pr)[\[Image: Spain\]Spain](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=es)[\[Image: United Kingdom\]United Kingdom](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=gb)[\[Image: Uruguay\]Uruguay](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=uy)[\[Image: 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# I'm struggling to determine whether what I experienced was sexual assault or if I'm just upset that it didn't go as I had hoped. I met a guy from a dating app who asked me to study with him at a public library. I agreed, thinking that was all that would happen. When he asked to kiss me, I didn't say no, but I didn't really enjoy it. Later, he asked me to meet him in the bathroom, and although I didn't want to, I felt like I had to go through with it. I didn't like it, and he didn't have a condom, but I didn't say anything. Since I never explicitly told him no, I feel like it doesn't count as assault because he might have thought I was consenting. Afterwards, he blocked me, and we never spoke again, but I had a pregnancy scare that caused me a lot of stress. I have panic attacks when I see people who look like him, and I can feel him touching me. I haven't worn the outfit I had on that day because it makes me feel gross. The encounter happened around 3 AM when I hadn't slept for at least two days and was going through a breakup with an abusive partner. I wasn't in a good state of mind, but he didn't know that. As an autistic person, I may have missed some signals, but I didn't expect things to happen in public. I'm doubting if it was sexual assault because I felt fine at the time, but since then, I've had no positive or neutral feelings about it. I've never had sex with a guy before, so I wonder if I'm just disappointed and trying to find a reason to be upset because it wasn't the fairy-tale experience I had imagined.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. What you've described sounds like a very distressing and confusing experience. It's understandable that you're struggling to make sense of your feelings and determine whether what happened was sexual assault.

First, it's important to recognize that [consent](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.rainn.org%2Farticles%2Fwhat-is-consent&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=a6695950-2421-4f11-9b27-493b27c0092b&sig=a83a147de60fce162dbdcda503b52bed0862615962013490bcb7ec31b0d16311) is not just the absence of a "no." It's the presence of an enthusiastic, informed, and freely given "yes." It sounds like you were not in a state of mind to give clear, enthusiastic consent. You mentioned that you didn't want to engage in sexual activity but felt like you had to go through with it. This pressure to comply, even if it wasn't explicitly stated, can be a form of [coercion](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fstories.ourwave.org%2Fen%2Fanswer%2Fhow-do-i-know-if-i-was-coerced-into-having-sex-12&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=a6695950-2421-4f11-9b27-493b27c0092b&sig=ca9561cfb0632987204922b24fa2cd6e733ef39828eb35867d4fee3b7efdb1e9). Additionally, the fact that you were sleep-deprived, recently out of an abusive relationship, and potentially missed social cues due to being autistic all contribute to a situation where you were vulnerable and not fully able to advocate for your needs and boundaries.

It's concerning and upsetting that he blocked you and disappeared after the encounter. This suggests that he may have been more interested in his own gratification than in ensuring that the experience was mutually comfortable and consensual. I am sorry you experienced that. You did not deserve that. That is not a kind thing to do and I can only imagine how painful that must have felt for you.

The physical and emotional reactions you've been experiencing - panic attacks, feeling his touch, discomfort with wearing certain clothing - are all common responses to sexual trauma. Even if you felt fine in the moment, it's valid to have delayed reactions of distress, confusion, and disgust.

Only you can label your experiences, but it is important to remember that sexual assault is never your fault. You are not to blame for his actions or for not being able to stop the situation. It's the responsibility of the person initiating sexual contact to ensure that their partner is enthusiastically consenting and comfortable throughout the encounter.

It's understandable that you're questioning your own feelings and wondering if you're just disappointed that the experience didn't live up to your expectations. However, the fact that you're having such strong negative reactions suggests that there wa something deeply unsettling about the encounter, and that you may be feeling something beyond just disappointment.

I encourage you to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist to process this experience. It can be helpful to talk through your feelings with someone who can offer support and validation. If you feel comfortable, you may also want to consider contacting a [sexual assault hotline or chatline](https://community.ourwave.org/_external/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhotline.rainn.org%2Fonline%3F_ga%3D2.218187546.2025760637.1718739032-101655522.1716293937&resourceId=non_specific&localeId=en&countryId=us&src=answer&questionId=a6695950-2421-4f11-9b27-493b27c0092b&sig=7a320b4eedb38b8508078ffe58fdec2386cc46cd9f049d5df6ed5638db275c94) or support organization for additional resources and guidance.

Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to have your boundaries and well-being respected in all sexual encounters. Having trouble labeling coercive experiences is not uncommon. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this complex situation, and know that support is available. Thank you for trusting us with this. You are not alone.

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Australia\]Australia](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=au)[\[Image: Bolivia\]Bolivia](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=bo)[\[Image: Canada\]Canada](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ca)[\[Image: Chile\]Chile](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=cl)[\[Image: Colombia\]Colombia](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=co)[\[Image: Costa Rica\]Costa Rica](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=cr)[\[Image: Cuba\]Cuba](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=cu)[\[Image: Dominican Republic\]Dominican Republic](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=do)[\[Image: Ecuador\]Ecuador](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ec)[\[Image: El Salvador\]El Salvador](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=sv)[\[Image: Equatorial Guinea\]Equatorial Guinea](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=gq)[\[Image: Guatemala\]Guatemala](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=gt)[\[Image: Honduras\]Honduras](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=hn)[\[Image: Ireland\]Ireland](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ie)[\[Image: Japan\]Japan](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=jp)[\[Image: Mexico\]Mexico](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=mx)[\[Image: Nicaragua\]Nicaragua](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=ni)[\[Image: New Zealand\]New Zealand](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=nz)[\[Image: Panama\]Panama](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=pa)[\[Image: Paraguay\]Paraguay](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=py)[\[Image: Peru\]Peru](/en/answer/im-struggling-to-determine-whether-what-i-experienced-was-sexual-assault-or-if-im-just-upset-that-it-didnt-go-as-i-had-hoped-i-met-a-guy-from-a-dating-app-who-asked-me-to-study-with-him-at-a-public-library-i-agreed-thinking-that-was-all-that-would-happen-when-he-asked-to-kiss-me-i-didnt-say-no-but-i-didnt-really-enjoy-it-later-he-asked-me-to-meet-him-in-the-bathroom-and-although-i-didnt-want-to-i-felt-like-i-had-to-go-through-with-it-i-didnt-like-it-and-he-didnt-have-a-condom-but-i-didnt-say-anything-since-i-never-explicitly-told-him-no-i-feel-like-it-doesnt-count-as-assault-because-he-might-have-thought-i-was-consenting-afterwards-he-blocked-me-and-we-never-spoke-again-but-i-had-a-pregnancy-scare-that-caused-me-a-lot-of-stress-i-have-panic-attacks-when-i-see-people-who-look-like-him-and-i-can-feel-him-touching-me-i-havent-worn-the-outfit-i-had-on-that-day-because-it-makes-me-feel-gross-the-encounter-happened-around-3-am-when-i-hadnt-slept-for-at-least-two-days-and-was-going-through-a-breakup-with-an-abusive-partner-i-wasnt-in-a-good-state-of-mind-but-he-didnt-know-that-as-an-autistic-person-i-may-have-missed-some-signals-but-i-didnt-expect-things-to-happen-in-public-im-doubting-if-it-was-sexual-assault-because-i-felt-fine-at-the-time-but-since-then-ive-had-no-positive-or-neutral-feelings-about-it-ive-never-had-sex-with-a-guy-before-so-i-wonder-if-im-just-disappointed-and-trying-to-find-a-reason-to-be-upset-because-it-wasnt-the-fairy-tale-experience-i-had-imagined-162?country=pe)[\[Image: Puerto Rico\]Puerto 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Grounding activity

Find a comfortable place to sit. Gently close your eyes and take a couple of deep breaths - in through your nose (count to 3), out through your mouth (count of 3). Now open your eyes and look around you. Name the following out loud:

5 – things you can see (you can look within the room and out of the window)

4 – things you can feel (what is in front of you that you can touch?)

3 – things you can hear

2 – things you can smell

1 – thing you like about yourself.

Take a deep breath to end.

From where you are sitting, look around for things that have a texture or are nice or interesting to look at.

Hold an object in your hand and bring your full focus to it. Look at where shadows fall on parts of it or maybe where there are shapes that form within the object. Feel how heavy or light it is in your hand and what the surface texture feels like under your fingers (This can also be done with a pet if you have one).

Take a deep breath to end.

Ask yourself the following questions and answer them out loud:

1\. Where am I?

2\. What day of the week is today?

3\. What is today’s date?

4\. What is the current month?

5\. What is the current year?

6\. How old am I?

7\. What season is it?

Take a deep breath to end.

Put your right hand palm down on your left shoulder. Put your left hand palm down on your right shoulder. Choose a sentence that will strengthen you. For example: “I am powerful.” Say the sentence out loud first and pat your right hand on your left shoulder, then your left hand on your right shoulder.

Alternate the patting. Do ten pats altogether, five on each side, each time repeating your sentences aloud.

Take a deep breath to end.

Cross your arms in front of you and draw them towards your chest. With your right hand, hold your left upper arm. With your left hand, hold your right upper arm. Squeeze gently, and pull your arms inwards. Hold the squeeze for a little while, finding the right amount of squeeze for you in this moment. Hold the tension and release. Then squeeze for a little while again and release. Stay like that for a moment.

Take a deep breath to end.

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I feel grounded and ready